Nothing can truly prepare you for the emotions you will likely feel following an abortion. The impacts can extend beyond days or weeks into months and years. Some women wrestle with regret decades after the procedure. If you recently had an abortion, you’re probably dealing with a lot of conflicting emotions, and wondering how best manage these feelings in order to regain control of your life.
We hope these tips will help.
1. Talk with those you love
Fear of admitting you were pregnant may be one reason you chose adoption in the first place. Whether you felt too ashamed to tell your parents, were concerned that telling your boyfriend might drive him away or worried about judgment from friends, it’s never too late to lean on those who love you most. Carrying this burden in silence is too much for anyone to bear. Consider who may be the most compassionate, and then choose the right time and place to share with them the choice you made and the challenges you now face.
2. Seek specialized counseling and support
As alone as you may feel right now, there are thousands of other women working to come to terms with similar emotions. In fact, approximately one-third of all women in the U.S. will have an abortion at some point in their lives. Talking with others who share your experience can be renewing, allowing you to speak openly and receive firsthand advice. Sira’s free After Abortion Care program is designed to restore hope by allowing you to talk with someone one-on-one or take part in group sessions.
3. Express yourself
Regret and grief can consume you if you don’t let them out. Express your true emotions, whether alone or with those you love. Crying, yelling, even screaming are all acceptable. You can also try putting your thoughts and feelings down on paper. Journaling, writing poetry and composing songs are a few constructive ways to come to terms with how you feel. The most important thing to remember is that you are a beautiful person, deserving of love.
If you’re dealing with the emotional consequences of having an abortion – whether the procedure was last week or decades ago – we can help. Call Sira in Gainesville at 352-377-4947 today to learn more about our After Abortion Care program.